Okay, but how does indecision kill. First, let’s look at what is the difference between indecision and hesitation. Hesitation is when you do make a decision but it’s just not very quick or there is a brief moment of self-doubt or recalculation. In a short time or even a split second, an opportunity can vanish. That is the power of hesitation. Now, there is a balance to hesitation in that it is possible to actually prevent a negative event by hesitating to ensure that everything is proper.

So, what is indecision if hesitation is the above definition. In my mind, indecision is the absence of making a decision. You are faced with a decision or with a next step, or even just an action, and you don’t make it. You “sit” there and you make no decision at all. You do nothing. In my life, my performance is at its worst when I’m am indecisive.

And, this is why indecision kills. You are killing your time. You are killing your learning, You are killing your creativity in some cases. You are killing your evolution as a human being. There is no redeeming side to indecision.

So, if you have to do anything… hesitate… but whatever you do… please, do make a decision.  What do you think?  Agree?  Disagree?

Legend Yacht Charter

I am very excited to announce that my wife and I have purchased a 50 foot Bavaria. It’s a great boat kept in great shape. It was initially purchased so that our family could sail it, and so that we could take our kids out of school in 2012 and sail around the Caribbean. Since that initial concept, it has grown to be much more. It is available to be chartered by anyone! We have an amazing yacht management company that can provide bareboat charters or fully crewed charters. So, if are interested in sailing in paradise, then our boat may be an option for you.

But, the concept of what we can do with the boat has grown even from that. I am now looking at doing leadership development programs, strategic planning sessions, etc. on the boat. It will be the perfect place to provide that sort of programming for my clients. Again, if you think this would be a good fit for you or your organization, let me know.

A Great Caribbean Yacht Charter

At the end of the day, this is a great opportunity for people to experience a BVI yacht charter. So, check out our new website for the boat… http://www.legendyachtcharter.com… and, let me know what you think!

First, it is their pleasure. What I mean is that they are taking ownership and defining that they are the owners of your impression of the hotel. Second, they not only say that it is there pleasure, but, they also believe it. Each and every person, truly enjoys being there for you in whatever role they play. For most of us, we don’t believe this. And, in fact, we can even become suspicious of people who truly enjoy their work. But, here, everyone feeds off the energy of the other employees and their guests. Do they sometimes have down times? Yes, but is that there default standard? No.

It’s a great lesson for everyone. How can we make our work… My Pleasure.

Let me know about your thoughts and how you make what you do… Your Pleasure.

For me, there were 2 great lessons. One, is the undervalued and underappreciated virtue of forgiveness. I think that many or even most people thought that South Africa could not go through the process of reconcilitation. But, in the end, they did and it was the right thing to do. Did it resolve all of there problems, no. But, it certainly put them in a better position than they would have been in any other case. Forgiveness can help heal and unlock a lot of hidden hurt that we experience.

As many of you will agree, a movie or a story has the wonderful ability to create inspiration and aspiration. I would suggest that this is one of those stories.

What stories, movies, songs, or books have been inspirational to you?

Captain Jo's Breast Friends With My Wife Taking The Photo

I was honoured to be a part of my wife’s challenge to walk 60 kilometres as part of the weekend to end all women’s cancers. The role that my 3 sons and I played was the same as last year — to be the best road team out there. We were there to support my wife’s team – Captain Jo’s Breast Friends. So, what did we do? We followed all the teams. We had supplies for them if they needed it. But, the most important role that we could play was to support all the walkers on their personal journey over the 2 days.

So, what do you do to support people who are often doing something that is pretty amazing and something that many have never done before in their life. We provided music – upbeat music to give them a lift. There is something very powerful about music and how it can support the human condition – the human soul. We also clapped. We cheered. We shouted.

The most important thing that we could do is to be there for each and every person individually. To make them feel like we were there for them and only them. I found that the best way to do this was to do something that will come as no surprise…. to look at each person, to look into their eyes and to give them as personal a message as possible. It might have been that we were proud of them, that they were doing very well, that this was the toughest hill on the circuit, that they looked really good, that it was amazing that they were still smiling. It didn’t really matter as long as it fit as best as possible with them. And, like I mentioned the most important part was to look into their eyes.

Looking into their eyes, reinforced our sincerity, it gave them a sense of trust that we were truly there for them. Having eye contact meant that for that brief fleeting moment, you were sharing in their personal journey, their personal triumph in some cases. Eye contact is so important to us as human beings.

We did that last year and people remembered us. And, again this year, we made a real difference. It was an amazing experience for me, and it so dramatically reinforced what’s really important and what’s important about the human condition. People who never thought they could accomplish this big goal were able to make it and we were there for them and with them.

My challenge to you is to go out and discover how you can support people who are testing and exploring their limits. You will grow in the experience.

And, tell us all about your experience… we can’t wait to hear your stories.

And, to regain that sense of who you are, sometimes the only thing that you can do is to get away. This might mean that you need a vacation, sometime it might mean that you need to work in a different place. It all depends but it will usually mean that you have a physical change from what you are used to.

This physical change means that you are able to jar your senses and to be able to re-normalize your perceptions of who you are and what’s important to you. And, that’s the irony, when you need to go away just to be more comfortable with going home. More comfortable with who you are and where you’re going.

So, next time you’re challenged because you’re feeling stale, try going away, literally! And then, tell us about your experience.

We all have those people in our life who send us those emails that make their rounds.  And, we all from time to time will read those emails, although most of the time, we’ll just delete them.  And, less frequently, we’ll find an email that really makes sense and actually has some value.  These pictures are from one of those emails.  This boy has apparently been featured in many tv shows and justly so.

I’ll let the pictures speak for themselves.  All they say is that attitude is everything.  And, if you don’t believe that you have the right attitude, then try a different perspective.  Perhaps these pictures will give you exactly that.  A new perspective.

Enjoy and please tell me what you get out of looking at these pictures.  See you at the bottom.

Hope this puts a little perspective in your day.  It did for me.

Let me know what gives you perspective.

I would argue that this is not the point when our journey starts.  And, no, it does not even start when we start to plan for the journey.  I believe that the journey starts when we start to conceive it. 

This change in perspective is important I think because it helps us understand how important our mindset is to the development (or cancellation) of our plans, our schemes and dreams.  How we start the conception of our journey has an effect and sometimes a large effect on the outcomes of that specific journey. 

To give an example of why the conception of the journey is so important, consider the process of visualization and the use of something called mirror neurons in the brain.  When we are visualizing something and not actually doing it, or if we see someone else doing something that we are familiar with, the mirror neurons in the brain fire because the recognize and are reinforcing the actions required for that activity.  And, even when we visual an activity that we are not completely familiar with, mirror neurons help us to understand what may be required and how we may need to react in that situation. 

Mirror neurons and visualization are a powerful tool to help us conceptualize.  They help to improve the odds of success on all of our endeavours. 

How do you use visualization and conceptualization to help with the success of your journey.  Write me a reply.

A Different Side of Paul Frazer

Okay, it happened a little while back, but I still should be telling you about my new website on World Class Excellence.  This newly minted site is the first half of a 2 stage upgrade.  The layout and structure has changed to be more easily accessible but, the most important thing is that there is more information on the work that I do with my company – Mindscape.  You will be able to learn more about performance leadership, motivation, my coaching, my consulting, my speaking, and even a little bit more about me. 

So, I would encourage you to do two things.

First, check out the new website.  There are articles there that you might like to check out as well as additional resources.

Second, I encourage you to change your landscape.  What around you needs to be “landscaped”.  It might at work, at home, or at play.  It might be metaphorical or real. 

Whatever it is, now is the time for a change.

What I saw as a great positive change, she saw as an effort not good enough.  This made me start to think about why we had different reactions.  She had a lot more invested into the project than I did.  She also was likely the one who would have to do the work so she may have been lamenting how much work was left. 

This may sound a little bit like the standard half full / half empty argument.  But, there may be a greater truth here.  I think she was looking at the garden as something that would be complete, when in fact, work on a garden is never done, is it?  It always needs more attention, care, planning, and more upgrading. 

Your Garden

Isn’t that exactly like our personal and professional lives.  It’s never complete.  It’s ever evolving.  We always need to tend our “gardens” don’t we.  Sometimes we’re getting rid of that weed that’s invaded somehow.  Other times, we’re enjoying the blossoms. 

The learning point here is that it, our personal and professional lives, are never done.  We can’t wait for them to be perfect.  We need to enjoy the improvements we’ve made.  And, we need to celebrate that our “garden” will continue to evolve. 

That change in perspective is a powerful one, especially when it’s springtime as it is now.  It’s a time full of possibility.  A time to celebrate the flowers.