Every time I end up at my dentist’s office, I am reminded of a few things related to the work that I do. One of the things that I’ve discovered that defines those people who are successful is the issue of control. Everyone is more successful when they are in control. When I’m coaching individuals, I will inevitably work with the individual around creating more control.
A visit to the dentist’s office is an interesting experiment in control. It is one place in life where you relinquish direct control over yourself. You start by waiting in the waiting room. Simple enough but you are now subject to the time-lines of others. Then, when you are brought to the examining room, many people have to enter into a conversation of defeat… where they were not as successful with their promises from the last time they visited. But, the most significant issue of direct control that you give up is your personal space. You will shortly be allowing someone who is an acquaintance to sit very close to you and put their fingers in your mouth!
I am sure that you will agree with me how you give up a certain amount of control and, in some ways, are subordinate to the dentist, nurse or hygienist. Rest assured, however, that they too are giving up some control. They are putting their fingers in your mouth and are trusting that you will not…. damage their fingers. 
So, a part from the obvious loss of control, what can a trip to the dentist teach us. I think it’s a great playground for learning how we are going to react to a situation where we do not have complete control. In other areas of life this is where you will be able to make great strides to even more success.
For me, I am truly lucky. I have a great dentist and dental team. I consider the visits to be a time to just sit back and relax. Have I always done the best that I could have with flossing… maybe not. But, I do realize that these individuals have my health care as their utmost concern. That’s pretty cool.
And, regular trips to the dentist help create that external accountabililty that is so important for us to reach our goals – dental and otherwise. And, good dentists know that. But, alas, that’s a topic for another post.
Here’s to your health, in all ways!
Posted by Paul Frazer 
